Wow, so many in this thread are so divided, and as usual, I had to click the tab to open downvoted posts so I could read those. Come on people, grow the eff up, learn to respect the fact that an individual has a right to their opinion, regardless of whether or not you agree with it.

As far as whether or not the whole thing is deceptive and what not, it really isn't going to matter what those posting in this thread think. It's going to matter what the girl who you are dating thinks. There is a lot more that goes into this than shows on the surface. When you tell her, she really may feel deceived, after all, if she is involving you in her life on that level, not telling her is dishonest.

People have sexual preferences, and she may not want to date a transgender person, and that is her right; it wouldn't make her a bigot or anything else. This girl should be allowed to know the truth, and the longer you wait, the worse it is going to be.

You may not feel like you are deceiving her, but she may feel that you are. She is a person, and she has the right to be allowed to make these types decisions based based on sexual preference, and if you are not in the realm of her sexual preference, then she is dating someone she wouldn't normally date because she eas purposely misled.