As shitty as it sounds, sometimes it is the victim's fault. While this was a domestic abuse issue, his main concern was that she would hurt the kids. The kids were with a neighbor. He could have gone over there, grabbed the kids and gone somewhere safe. But instead he goes back home, allows her into the house and then has sex with her and goes to bed next to her. In order to be safe, you have to make intelligent decisions. Don't go running in the park at night with headphones on. Don't get shit-faced drunk at a party. I understand that getting shit-faced drunk is not asking to be sexually assaulted, but you are putting yourself in a position where you may be. If you don't want to get hit by a car, you don't walk in the middle of the freeway. If you're so concerned that you tell your co-workers that if something happens to you your wife probably did it, don't put your dick in her and then fall asleep.