I think it is reckless to abandon a decade long commitment because you feel you are not loving at full capacity--the OP says it is not that he wants to be alone, but that he wants to love more vividly. This is generally more about working through personal hangups than it is about changing the recipient of that love. Absence from that person many times leads to the realization that our dissatisfactions were misattributed.
Well if OP says that's what HE wants then it must be true. When the commitment us that insane, you should be allowed out. You can't just use contracts to justify anything. We are not who we were a decade ago. He should not be a prisoner for life for a decision he made then when she can and likely will leave whenever she wants without the same legal ramifications.
Why? Why just assume that he's duxking wrong and he should be with her? You keep fucking saying that and denying it you keep implying that he is wrong and it's healthy for him to.
When people are together, for a whike" the form dependancy. This happens and good and bad relationships. The person feeling a "need" for the other because they have become dependant in them is not some sign that it was mean to be. That's so fuxking sick.
But you are also missing a nuance if you say that I am assuming this is the guy's fault. I cannot know that. I can only give advice based upon what the person soliciting the advice chooses to share. Is there a side of the story we're not hearing? Certainly. But we can't give shape to that story without making assumptions.
So we just take people on their word here now? Or is it only for women too?
Why not take that pathetic kids side of the story and only his side?
No they are not the same, she's an adult and should really know better but society promotes her kind if destruction.
OP is in a place of profound pain and loss. It does no good to judge or condemn her for possibilities that are artifacts of our own perception. The best we can offer is a means of pursuing her hypothesis (that they are indeed meant to be together) without affronting his personal sovereignty.
His person sovereign already means nothing. She has the law. He's fucked no matter what. That's just it and obviously nobody fucking cares.
They were meant to be tofether. Fuck thst.