This is spot on! I was thinking of the exact same things when reading your response. You need to look to the future and work on yourself instead of looking for validation from other men, that can lead to a negative spin and make things worse for you in the end. It's true that one should not worry what people say about them, but one should also refrain from indulging in activities which they know will lead to a negative reputation and hurt them more down the line. Not sure if you believe in god or anything, but maybe try to meditate and just explain to yourelf mentally that god put you in this situation to show you and teach you not to be a certain way, sometimes we are put in situations not to be hurt but to learn and grow. Think of this like so; God see's your insecurities and things you may not acknowledge and to shape you and mold you into a greater woman he has put you through situations to help you see and learn. I've witnessed some people ending up in the same mess repetitively over years because they don't see or acknowledge that they had made a wrong choice, so continue to be the same and make the same choices and are put through the same situation with different people until they accept that their decision was wrong and learn and grow from their experience. Cheers!