Me [27M] seeing (sort of) [26F] who was (and still is) in an abusive relationship.

I dont think I could just be friends with her. It was weird. During a halloween party her and I were talking and this crackhead looking vampire (her bf) comes up behind her and awkwardly starts massaging her shoulders in front of me. He then got her pregnant like immediately after. Apparently he "forgot to pull out" but no moron would believe that.

Im thinking he did it to keep her. Felt threatened.

I assume after this curfuffle itll happen again...hence, why I wanted to really make her see how stupid it was going back to him. The guys fucked up enough to do something like that and it wouldnt be considered weird of him.

Like..I KNOW she didnt want to go back to him. I know if thiglngs happened in a way where she wasnt made to feel like a villain I wouldnt be sitting here like an asshole asking reddit for advice.

I was starting to feel like Neil Patrick Harris in Gone Girl near the end trying to convince her.

But her whole demeanor changed. She got cold.

She called me and she broke down in tears and kept emphasizing the fact she had kids.

I know this whole decision is based on looking out for her kids but fuck..why put yourself through misery.

She always asked if it sounded like she needed meds. I told her she didnt and how her kids would feel their mother had to take medication to put up with a shitty situation for the sake of them.

I was willing to support her. I dont mean to brag but I make too much money and spend it on stupid shit likr cigarettes and energy drinks. Id rather see it go to a better cause than killing myself.

I dont want to give up on her but Im starting to feel like that crazy dude in the movies that wont keep the pretty protagonist alone.

Its the most difficult situation ive ever been in. And I do a lot of stupid shit so thats saying something .

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