I think I need to clarify some things. Yes it happened twice. First time when we started dating. It was with his ex. Second Time when I was pregnant so it was 3 years ago. I was having a hard time and he told me it was strictly sexual because he was too afraid for the baby to have sex with me. It's not an excuse and he regrets it deeply. We have talked a lot about it. I had considered therapy but he never wanted to because you know no therapist could be smarter than he is so he had to fond the solution. We have never considered splitting up as we are still in love and we will always do whatever we have to to let our daughter grow up in the best conditions. But since she's born I feel like he's getting overly jealous and this affects in a way my need of freedom. I think it's because he cheated that he fears I might want a revenge which is not the case. And my INTJ friend kind of helped me understand the father of my child as he thinks the same way and by that time I couldn't openly talk to my husband about how I felt since I was really hurt and he didn't understand that. At that time he didn't feel like cheating because he didn't love her. Well all that being said I didn't expect this whole thing to go so far. I just wanted advices on how to prove him he can trust me even if I need social contacts with sometimes other people than just him. But you guys doesn't seem to understand that so I'll let you judge.