Talk about missing the point. And if you think this sub, on which people want to die of shame at having let people in their lives down and express suicidal thoughts every single week is anything like RBN, or is full of people who don't have empathy for the NTs who put up with us, I don't know what to tell you.

I think some people are reading what they want to into OP's post. He is trying his BEST, he ACKNOWLEDGES he is letting her down and fucking up. He is trying to live up to his expectations and please her, and she won't have a discussion wtih him. He cannot get through to her. So is he just supposed to marry her and get an earful of how disappointed she is every damn week for the rest of his life? Who's lacking empathy?

Anyway, it doesn't MATTER if she's justfied in her complaints. She probably is. The POINT is that any relationship that ruins your confidence is toxic. He can't fucking do any better, and she won't listen or ease up on the criticism.

A lot of people on this site don't have any relationship experience, are very young, or just have low emotional intelligence. I see a lot of laughably awful advice being given about relationships from people who haven't dated much or at all. If you have dated a TON, you can see that this relationship is going to be shitty for OP's mental health 100 miles away.