I've been there. I spent a long time there... I didn't manage to find clear air until I learnt the difference between knowing better and doing better. We can always tell ourselves that we should be doing better, but that doesn't always mean it's possible.

For years I thought I should be doing better. I used to speak to myself like a loser because I wasn't where I thought I should be. I put so much pressure on myself to be further along... It didn't work. It'll never work. I was struggling with depression and anxiety, among others. At that time, given my limited understanding of my situation, no... I couldn't do any better. I knew what better looked like, but I wasn't able to do it. Once I understood my situation and addressed my mental health, I could move forward. But I was always doing the best I knew how to do.

Anxiety, depression, time, opportunities, or any combination of the many personal circumstances in life can stand in the way.

Just because you think you should be doing better, doesn't mean you're not doing the best you can at this point in time. Expecting too much of ourselves can really add unnecessary pressure, which just makes the anxiety worse.