i feel u. we want to cut to the chase or just not interact at all. being in a room full of people sometimes feels like ur drowning in an ocean of humans unintentionally frothing at the mouth with information about themselves and all sorts of cues you just cant NOT pick up on or tune out... and then you slap on all the interpersonal relationships going on and its truly information overload. the only cure is a lobotomy. jk. what has helped me is to accept that i cant spend my time and energy investing in every character my life journey plops down infront of me. i accept that even if i try my hardest to exist as if ive been lobotomized, i will pretty much always pick up cues being given off... but i dont need to act on them or discuss it with them. i think people like us tend to make a large chunk of people uncomfortable (i mean.. who likes feeling like they're under observation? only narcissists.. but thats another infj issue). in essence.. play dumb, chameleon it and wait for the right types of people to come along. if you find yourself in a situation where the other person has overshared... remember to offer up information about yourself! i think we have a tendency to hyperfocus on people to the point of it becoming an interrogation instead of an exchange. also, some people need to establish a sense of "normalcy" before getting mentally down and dirty. so part-taking in small talk and following a basic script can be thought of as a necessary stepping stone. not everyone likes getting their mental freak on from the getgo. most importantly though: temporary or partial social isolation > unfulfilling social events where you end up wasting your time and energy > complete social isolation