That probably isn't wise. What happens if you ignore your friends to pour all of yourself into a lover, then something happens to that lover? They betray you, leave you, you fall out of love, fall in love with another of, god forbid, said lover dies?

Then you're all alone because you were a dick and forgot about your friends?

In any case, I've noticed a lot of people never want to speak to me again when either a) my sister makes it clear, once and for all, that she isn't interested in being anything more than friends or b) I make it clear, once and for all, that id rather be friends than lovers. This is insulting and tells us that the person vying for our affection doesn't value people. It's a disgusting thing to learn about a person.

Friendship is extremely important. Really, why would you put the person you can call when your job blows and drink with over the person who has sex with you or vice versa.

Relationships, whether with friends, family or lovers are all equally important. When you grow older and have your own family, you'll realize this. Otherwise, guess who babysits. A perfect stranger.

Anyway, I'm derailing here. I cannot tell you how to get a woman or why one isn't interested. All i can do is make general guesses as to why not. For example, you may be self-deprecating. Women, in my experience, like a man who is self-confident. If she thinks you doubt yourself, then she will doubt you. If you look at your feet everywhere you go, no one has a chance to look into your face; this makes you forgettable, because people aren't seeing your face often enough. This is also bad for your posture and makes you look depressing to be around. This certainly won't make a woman glance your way. There are a million examples I can give, but unless I know about you and/or the people you're trying to get close to, I doubt anyone can reason answer why.

The only thing I can do is say I am always open to new friends and you're welcome to pm me for my contact info. I am honest and dont feel the need to always say what my friends want to hear. But, I'm also funny, when presented with less serious topics.

In any case, I hope I helped a little.