Here’s my philosophy.

Forget about what everyone thinks of you for a moment.

What would it take for you to be happy with the way you look? Whatever that look is, I want you to strive for it. If you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin, change. But don’t change to fit another persons perception of you.

If you feel like your weight makes you self conscious and you don’t like the way you look or feel, then work on it. It might be worth it to find someone to teach you how to do it in a healthy and productive manner.

I can offer whatever advice I know about counting calories. But you may need a bit more hands on approach. Regardless, step one is to be comfortable and happy with who you are.