I don’t. I always used to judge cheaters. I see it as the ultimate sign of lack of respect (and still do, but I now understand things can be complicated). I was in an abusive relationship for many years and didn’t see a way out. I found comfort in someone else and realized I deserved better. I did not cheat physically, but I did emotionally. I ended my relationship within a couple months, but not before hurting the person I had been with for years. I don’t think I would ever be in this situation again because I learned to value myself and communicate my feelings. However, I do wish I would have handled things differently. The person who I found comfort in has now been my partner for many years, and I have never been happier or treated better by anyone in my life. I do not condone cheating nor will I ever. However, I don’t think it is as black and white as I used to think.