I was upset, I'm new to polyamory practices, and everybody makes mistakes. I don't think any of the boundaries I landed on at the /very end/ were coercive or rules they may have started off that way, but they developed, refined, and improved with some input from others from r/polyamory I don't feel and haven't told her she needs to earn back my trust, just that I don't trust her right this minute and it's going to take a while for me to be vulnerable again.

So my expectations were messed up? I'm trying to be better, learn, and improve. Nobody is perfect and has it all sorted from the get go, especially when emotions are sky high.

I don't know anyone that experienced in polyamory to ask for advice, which is why I end up here. And if you've already figured it out on the vague information I'm certainly not about to disclose more even if the advice would be more helpful.