They aren’t working through it. We’ve been together for years, they have made no progress whatsoever on their mental health. I have been putting out the same fires and 3-4 times a week breakdowns over the same things every week for years on end. I don’t want to talk to their therapist about them, I am not expecting their therapist to tell me a thing or reply to me at all, I just want them to have a fuller picture of the issues because the things they are recommending my partner do are being made ineffective by issues they don’t know about.

But thank you for answering my question about the email part. You may think me meddling, but I’d really just like to see them happy and not spend the rest of my life talking someone off a cliff.