I think its rather compassionate you think that, actually. All that you listed about life experience is stuff you wish for him to experience, because you love him! Parents want their kids to succeed and be 'normal' because normal means they get the most out of life with the fewest obstacles. You're not being an asshole, because it also gives you a tough time in life as well. Kids with disabilities, mental illness, are overweight or lgbt, basically anything outside what is usually acceptable, are going to have a harder life. No mother wants that for their kid, because you love that little squishy new baby and you daydream about them getting married, having friends, having a career, and being lively. Then your dream crumbles away once you discover whatever it is about your child, that will make their life difficult. You feel sad worrying if he'll have a good 'normal' life, but he might not be that daydream you had when you stared at your newborn with big loving motherly eyes. And that's okay. Whatever he does, will make him happy. Things get easier as you age. He might not ever be able to look someone in the eyes but he'll find his own personal enjoyment and live his own unique life. Whatever he does, it may not be what is the status quo, but he'll be happy. I think that is all that matters. Just help him find his own unique happiness. What you consider parts of a quality life, are not concrete and necessary. I think the best way to be a parent is to never setup expectations or a life-plan and just support your child and teach them what you can. What if he doesn't WANT to be married or date? What if ordering in a restaurant is not necessary for him? Just teach him life skills and hope for the best, its all you can do.