Sorry to piss on your parade but you won’t find the ultimate happiness you seek. Adultery is a bandaid that does not treat the underlying root cause of your unhappiness. Be honest with yourself if you choose to embark down this path - you don’t deserve to be happy. You don’t deserve anything. There are no guarantees in life. You can be homeless or dead tomorrow. Too many people in this sub seem to think they are entitled to some life of fulfilled sexual pleasure, love, passion, and emotion. Where is that written? Where is it guaranteed? Who funds it?

Again, I’m not shooting you down here but just giving you perspective before you take steps that have consequences. Be sure you want to enter this lifestyle. Be sure you know what you are doing. And be sure you have the right perspective about who you are and what you should or should not have in your life. You can be selfish all you want - who am I to judge - but you may as well just admit to it. I see too many people here offended at being called cheaters. Let’s call a spade a spade.