I wouldn't say I am good at socializing, but I do observe a lot.

What I have noticed is, every conversation almost always revolves around individuals either talking about themselves, or talking about how they perceive details regarding news, sports, world events or they attempt to line their point of with an authority, whether it be polls, pundits, intellectuals etc.

There are people who talk about themselves or any one of these things a lot. Not many are interested in what the other participants have to say, unless they are agreeing with the 1st person. Like anything conversation is just a balance between saying something then allowing the other person to chime in, then saying something based on their response or continueing to say whatever the person was saying before the 2nd person chimed in. It's pleasant for people in a conversation to acknowledge what the other person is saying. Like adding, oh cool, that's interesting, I had no idea.

A good conversation is usually both folks stating their point of view while giving back a little by acknowledging the other person's perspective.

It's good to have an arsenal of questions that allows the 2nd person to join into a conversation if there is awkward silence.

Once the other person starts taking, 1st person can chime in about their thoughts.

Some people over do this, like they will have a relatable story about themselves or their best friend regarding any situation that is being discussed. Talking about personal experiences works in specific discussions and in others just talking about things in general with out inserting the self in to each sentence, can be a tricky balance to achieve.

In the end there are only an extremely few number of people that can carry a conversation with anybody on any subject. The rest of us are stuck trying to play this balancing acts in conversation.