Oh, I thought you meant overbearing in the negative sense - No my partner can be the sweetest, most loving, perfect human being you have ever met in your life. Sadly he's been told his entire life by his mother that he's worth nothing, she never wanted a son, etc, and he's so desperate for her approval he'll do whatever makes her happy - so we have a DAUGHTER on the way. You can imagine how happy my partners mother is, always loved her daughter over her son, ignores her grandsons, dotes on her grand-daughter.

Sadly it didn't work for my partner. She still fills his head full of crap (apparently he's "fat", looks "homeless"), I called her out on her behaviour and now suddenly I'm the Devil in Disguise and he needs to "get rid of me" because I'm an "awful woman" and he needs to "take the baby away from me".

Poor man. He is lovely in every sense of the word. We have an amazing time together. Then he goes round his mothers and comes back an insecure ball of anger with a head full of shit. We're having a talk about it tonight though. I'm trying to figure out how to say "stop allowing your mother to do this to you, I want you to cut her out of your life" without seeming controlling.