I agree with you - but it is in childhood that men (and many women, too) are failed.

The early years should be a soft and kind learning experience for every child. Every child needs to be taught appropriate ways to identify and contextualise big, difficult feelings.

I frequently discuss this stuff with my son.

We have feeling ‘zones’ we use to identify moods. For example, Blue Zone is happy and calm; Orange Zone is anxious; Red Zone is angry, etc.

We also categories problems using animals and space. Problems can be classified according to how big they are and how difficult they are to solve, categories are Insect, bear, dinosaur, meteorite.

We also talk about rumination and intrusive thoughts (we call them ‘sticky thoughts’) and how it’s just our Brain telling us an untrue story and we don’t have to believe it. Then we do something physical to shake it off.

Thankfully, boys these days are given a lot more leeway to attend to their emotions, and children in general are far better educated about constructive strategies for self-soothing.

In about 25-30 years, humanity is going to level up in a major way.