It's a huge part of the problem that you don't see how it's offensive that people might only want to talk to a woman because she's a sexually viable candidate. Every woman has known a guy who was really nice a good friend until it was made obvious that she didn't want anything more. Then the guy disappears because her friendship isn't anything important, it's a means to an end.

Why should any woman have to navigate that? Also, not every single woman is antiquated and expecting guys to make the first move. I've known MANY women who have made the first move and been rejected. Funnily enough, the rejection rate seems to be correlated to how attractive they are because men don't have a monopoly on rejection. It's almost like people don't connect over being randomly hit on by strangers they don't know and aren't interested in.

Anyway, you're missing the point because you have had trouble picking women up and I'm not surprised because you clearly don't see anything wrong with talking to a stranger just because they're attractive to you and no problem telling women how they should feel.

I mean, let's be real. If women are telling you it's not cool and you're like, "oh no but it is. All the women are the problem" then you're probably not going to get it.