Redditors with mentally handicapped siblings, what has been your experience growing up with them? What is the worst and or greatest effect that they have had on your life?

I am 12 years older than my sister who has a mild case of Cerebral Palsy. Growing up with her was pretty enlightening as I was also going through my awkward teenage years. Seeing her develop and get into school and being "different" was heartbreaking for me and my family. She has never really been social at all. I've never known her to have a friend or someone she looked forward to seeing except me. I have never been the "normal" kid though. I have been into the punk/hardcore subculture since I was 15 (im now 36) and heavily tattooed. I know what it's like to be judged by an appearance or being "different". I tried translating this to help my sister interact with people. But still to this day her biggest issue is that she doesn't trust anyone. She has an idea that everyone she knows or that are strangers, are judging her by her hand that is folded up due to the handicap and her limp. I feel so bad she doesn't have anyone to hang out with that she looks forward to doing so. She recently has been very verbally and physically violent towards my mother and other sister with whom she lives with. I live on the other side of the country now and it's hard for me to mediate these outbursts as they happen quite often. I've learned to treat everyone equally with no judgement from the start. My sister is an amazing person who went to graduate high school and college. Yet she sits at home and doesn't work or socialize. And when she does try to socialize she gets bent out of shape easily thinking people are judging her. I just hope that my constant support and words of encouragement and advice maybe will help her get out of her mind a little. I worry she will become a 35 year old adult sitting at home being more and more depressed. I have never wanted someone happy more than I do her. But sometimes it feels like it's a losing battle and she doesn't want help.

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