I’m pretty astounded that people are pushing you to be transgender on this sub. Many women with autism don’t like typical female things for various reasons. I think if you’re so worried about your husband leaving you if you don’t do everything to please him you could do with couple therapy because it’s none of his business what you wear. You are fully entitled to be a woman and do/wear non feminine things. It sounds like you could do with buying some clothes from the mens aisle for comfort and maybe find a really easy makeup routine so you don’t feel like crap leaving the house but don’t have the burden of all that time.

You can still look nice with a light foundation and some eyeliner and wearing a nice baggy man shirt and a pair of jeans.