THIS! The amount of times I hear from people, my spouse included, that aspects of love aren't what they expected. We love each other to bits but it has been a huge challenge when their first ever kiss wasn't what they expected from movies, where it's portrayed as an instant love orgasm and some sort of unique feeling. Ummm it's just skin on skin with a bit of saliva and movement, what did you expect??? It's the feeling of closeness that makes it special but you need to make that in your head: no one has magic lips to blow your mind if you can't blow you own fucking mind. And many, many more examples to romantic aspects. Romance movies can go fuck themselves