This is interesting. I'm not a parent but one thing my parents somehow made clear to me is if I'm ever in trouble or I did something wrong that I could go to them and they would help. Having that open honesty is rare and I'm grateful we had it. Obviously a bit different but I remember one time when I was about 7 or 8, my mom and my brother were arguing about something, and I was mad that my mom was being 'so mean' to him, so I slammed my bedroom door open, against the wall repeatedly. The door handle put a hole in the wall. I went out, crying, telling my mom what I did and that I was mad they were fighting and she explained, next time use your words, and no punishments for the damage to the wall, though we had a stern conversation about it and I didn't take it lightly. This translated later down the line too, when I had gotten too drunk (underage) and I called and asked for a ride home. They were grateful for the honesty and that I was safe. Explained the concept of moderation and that 'kids will be kids' and do stupid shit, but to always keep them in the loop so I could be an idiot safely.