Hi nontal,
Thank you for personal message, I don't wish to take up more time of yours than can be reasonably afforded.
I've been on dates, and I've been very close, emotionally and physically, to women my age in the passed/past. We've had [non-sexual] fun together, enjoying eachother's time, company, and personalities. I wouldn't say I've flirted with them, ie, sexual innuendos or physical touching, but I know that I've felt VERY comfortable in each others company. I've not been friend-zoned because I'm afraid of making advances if this is the result, or worse off, I "creep" someone out and ruin something good. I personally feel this is my "downfall".
Where I am right now in life, I don't meet many "new" women. I work in a small office, with 3 "proper"/"older" women: I'm the youngest person there. I like to think I make friends easily in group settings; I work as a recruiter, I'm very used to talking to people I've never met on the phone and finding out about this new person I've met. I'm proud I can translate this skill and confidence away from the telephone. One thing I've realised about meeting new men is that they are very open and welcoming: "older" men from my rugby club, "geeky geezers" at tech meet ups, "the lads" from my old school all welcome me, even if my "friendship" with some of them is "light". I feel sometimes that women I meet on nights out, in bars and pubs (in a talkative setting), react badly to my presence: I don't recall I a lass I hadn't known to be glad I was taking much interest in them. Club dance-floor wise... not great.
I used to play a lot of rugby, but I quit during University (I needed glasses at that time). I studied Computer Science, and I consider myself very geeky, perhaps overbearingly intelligent. I can see how this may put people off: a persistent "know it all" is not often a welcoming character, but I don't go out of my way to show off/prove myself right. I used to program a lot, to build up a resume/CV, which landed me a 9 to 6 office job (my first!). My job now takes up the majority of my weekday time, but I love all aspects of it. I probably should go to the gym more, but if I do, I'd go alone. I used to be motorbikes, but I sold mine due to a lack of maintenance. I spend some time too with my family: my granny, my little cousins, my older cousins, my parents.
I live in a small city of 30,000 people. The number of people here on a daily basis can easily double: typically tourists or day workers. I sometimes think I'm missing out on "daygame" opportunities, but I put myself down with the thought that I'd never see this person again (if they aren't here on a permanent basis). Perhaps it's this pessimistic thought that's stopped me from meeting a "good match", but only in the hope that there's a "good match" that lives in my city "permanently". There's lots of things to do here: dolphin trips, mountain hikes, driving cars, coffee breaks, beers in the sun, relaxing at pools/beaches, but because of the closeness of the community, I don't believe I'm alone in thinking there's "tension" when you meet someone you sort-of-know-through-that-one-friend-that-one-time-at-that-one-place.
I'm not sure what you'd make of this; I'm sorry to talk in cryptically.