So back when I was around 14 or so, this girl I was, and am still friends with, used to talk shit about me behind my back to my...I wanna say 37 (?) year old cousin.

Let me elaborate a little. This girl was always a little bit jealous of me though I'm not totally sure why. She pretty much had something to say about everything I did, said, everything that happened to me, etc. They were always just really bitter, and subtly envious envious comments. She made me feel stupid a lot of the time, always trying to correct me and argue bla out why I was wrong (even if I wasn't). Anyways, she met my cousin once and for some reason developed a major crush on the dude. One way or another she managed to start emailing him back and forth. Sometimes she'd say things about me, say that I was a spoiled brat, inconsiderate, needed to get my head out of the clouds. Pretty much bashing me. Obviously I'm biased because it can be hard to judge your own personality, but I've always felt that I was a nice person. I try to do the right thing and just try to be the most genuine that I possibly can. Her comments left me confused and made me very self aware in a negative way. Kinda began to think maybe I was all of the things she had said but just didn't know it. She even tried to go on dates with him, asked him sexual things and all that. It was disturbing and made me uncomfortable. To this day she has no idea that I saw the emails. She as a person has seemed to level out a little bit. We hang out every now and then and her constant, negative comments never happen anymore. Maybe we both just needed to mature a little bit. We have good times together on the rare occasions that we do see each other. The whole thing probably sounds like stupid 14 year old drama, but back then it sure felt like a slap in the face. Especially because she had never accused me of any of those things directly, but was totally fine with saying them to someone in my family. Someone that she really shouldn't have even been talking to.