3. [serious]When did you realise you have a drinking or substance abuse problem?

[serious]When did you realise you have a drinking or substance abuse problem?

When I saw it was making me argumentative and wanting to confront issues that weren't issues. I'd have a few beers and then I'd pick fights. Not physical, just verbal.

A couple of friends thought it was a problem when I punched one of them that I didn't get along with too well in the face. They were right at the time, but for the wrong reason. The kid and I didn't get along because he was overly flirtative with my (now ex) gf, and it made her very uncomfortable, so I talked to him and told him to cut it out. He didn't. That night he tried to force his way into my room for some reason, and she was half dressed in my bed. I told him to get the fuck out and he didn't listen so I popped him in the face so he wouldn't get into my room.

Well, they were insistent that I did that because of my drinking. I didn't. I was sober at that time, I was just keeping him away from her because he knew no boundaries.

Anyways, it turned out they were right, but had the completely wrong reasons. It was about that time, looking back, when it started becoming a problem.

Anyways, I realized it a few months later. It was never a life altering problem, I never drink and drove, I never drank all day, or any of that mess. But on weekends when we'd party and all that jazz, I stopped having as much fun and started being more argumentative.

So when I realized it, I just quit. Stopped right then and there. That was the end of it, and after that I had no desire to go back there.

A few months after that, my ex and I decided we could give it another shot. Worst case I(we) quit again, best case we did it responsibly.

Since then, I don't drink like I used to. I'll have a beer with my dinner. After a long day of work I'll have a beer while watching Netflix. But I don't drink like I used to, I haven't been drunk in a few years now. I just took my attitude about it and turned it a complete 180° Shit, I just placed an order for my next batch of homebrew.

That being said, I know how I handed it wouldn't work for everyone. I know some people want to avoid it completely because their dad or whoever else in their life was an alcoholic. Some people need the help of AA to quit. Some people will quit and have cravings the rest of their life they have to fight.

Everyone handles it differently. The important thing to know is how you need to handle it.

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