I'm sorry you're having to go thru this struggle. You're doing what's right and trying your best but those constant voices of comments and remarks don't help at all.

I'm not sure your situation now (work, living, social group) but I hope as things progress you can change this to where you're surrounded by more positive and supportive influences or can at least leave the bad ones and have that no longer a part of your daily life.

For the BPD person, I totally understand the hesitancy there and I'm not sure how to approach that. For others, you have the right to speak up and tell them their comments are not welcome and unless they have something positive to say or are 100% perfect themselves, they need to keep their mouths shut.