I found these quotes in some literature for a movement I'm involved in (Schoenstatt) a few years back. Personally it's helped me understand this dilemma a little better:

The main difficulty with philosophical idealism is that it is too one-sidedly analytical. The power of reason is analysis. It separates and distinguishes. Its motto is "divide and conquer." This of course is a great gift of God and will always remain an ideal and a tool for problem solving. But if this kind of thinking becomes absolute it becomes mechanistic. Then the distinctions and separations do not lead back to an understanding of the whole. Non-rational factors are ignored or undervalued. The mind becomes unable to see that the whole is greater than the parts.

They view cancer as analogous to a human fetus are because they've 'divided and conquered' to a point where they cannot see what it is they've broken down. It's a search for a rationale, not holistic understanding.

...In modern feminist circles, where the idea of independence (emancipation, rights, etc.) has sometimes become so absolute that the necessary connection to the idea of dependence (solidarity, service, selfless giving of self, etc.) is even attacked as hostile to the "progress of women." A true sense of the interaction of independence and dependence would help overcome this extreme position by showing that no healthy independence can exist without dependence, and no healthy dependence without the independence of a freely given "yes" (independence+dependence). Remaining "unipolar" must eventually leave its adherents disconnected from the fulfillment of freedom given to the service of others.

Applying it to this thread, I think it comes back to seeing if they'll recognize that a pregnant woman living in poverty is being selfless by carrying to term.

When it comes to changing mindsets on reddit however, it's a difficult proposition. This site is even less personal than Facebook, it's worth baring that in mind.