3. [Support] N-aunt drove by and saw my car, now NDad wants me to call her because ...

[Support] N-aunt drove by and saw my car, now NDad wants me to call her because "she wasn't told I was back in town"

Thanks for reading it, and all the help, I really don't know what I'd do without this place! I've been wanting to do this since I was 8; pack up and leave because I don't have to see N-aunt and I've known it! I never thought not having a toxic family was an option.

There is an uber toxic dynamic between them. I think I noticed it first when I was 10 but didn't start seeing it until around 13. It took a while, but I started to notice it more and more.

She keep emailing me, I don't know if I should block her altogether or see if she tries more than just 'Hi' and 'are you there?' Do I have to tell her to stop harassing me before I can get a protection order of the police, or no since I'm in another county than her?

I will definitely try to plan something in case of, but I don't think it's necissary. Unfortunately, since I'm unemployed I'm not sure if I can save up for something as big as Asia but I could go to another state at least. Camping up in a cooler climate would be lovely. We already have the RV! We could rent something to tow it with, I'm sure. Maybe we could make it RVing up to Canada! So many possibilities. Since I'm in another town (he knows the town) and he doesn't really know where I am in the town, I don't have to worry. He's too busy and strapped for gas money to drive 8 hour round trip here!

I'm not sure if I can get everything shipped, I currently don't have a real address, and I know there's already a lot of stuff I want from down there because I kind of just grabbed a bunch of stuff before, during and after my massive panic attack D: But I can replace everything after I get a job, if I need to. They're just things.

Thanks again for all the help! I really appreciate it! <3

EMom was telling me that I needed to at least 'do the adult thing' and tell her that I will not be contacting her, but I've read that you don't want to do that to a psychopath because it could make things worse. She's already obsessed with me, so I'm not sure how to proceed. I just wanna continue how I'm doing this, but if there's a more effective way, I'd love to hear it!

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