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I find it sad that people are so quick to judge the husband. But let's try to see this from his point of view. Because empathy is a two-way street. * He never called OP "ugly" (she just assumed), he just said he's not attracted. * He chose not to bring it up because it was obviously not the right time and didn't want to hurt OP's feelings. He realized it would have been unreasonable to demand her to go to the gym given the whole baby situation, so he decided to vent to his friend instead. Sometimes, when you feel guilty about having "wrong" feelings about loved ones, you just prefer to keep it to yourself, wait for a while for things to be like they used to be, or simply accept that's just how things are. * Love =/= sexual attraction. It hurts, but it's true. Just because a person loves you and truly cares about you doesn't mean he's lusting after you. No amount of love or empathy can change this. * People are NOT able to control what they're is attracted to. It's not like you can rationalize your way into being sexually attracted to someone. Desire is a FEELING, not a negotiation, not something you can change at will. I only wish it was possible. * His sex drive is waning. There plenty of studies related to males' loss of libido after childbirth. So you're not alone. Blaming him won't fix things. * The hormones, body changes, stress, breastfeeding, used diapers, the smell of vomit, more stress. This whole situation is obviously going to take its toll on your sex life. * It's not reasonable to belittle him for something he can't control. Because if he could, this would have never been a problem in the first place. Calling him a shallow pig is not going to solve anything.

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I find it sad that people are so quick to judge the husband. But let's try to see this from his point of view. Because empathy is a two-way street. * He never called OP "ugly" (she just assumed). * He chose not to bring it up. * Love =/= sexual attraction. * People are NOT able to control what they're is attracted to. * His sex drive is waning. * The hormones, body changes, stress, breastfeeding. * It's not reasonable to belittle him.

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