You started with the attack by coming to a support group for an attribute you don’t have and being unsupportive to OP. (Which is against sub rules, btw.) Yea, I am defensive, because you claimed - in a support group for big boobs - that OP wearing a shirt while having big boobs is the same thing as a man wearing no pants. You don’t see why this is offensive and totally unsupportive?

I wasn't attacking anyone. But I have been personally attacked so it's a bit jarring to have to clarify my intent. Just pointing out something that is adjectively true, boobs and penises are sexy. It's also true that they have other uses. It's not an attack to say that there may not have been bad intent when someone says put on something a bit more decent. Though I get the need to say get the fuck out of my house or to say good point. I've always leaned towards good point. But get the fuck out of my house is a boss moves that I respect.

I am sorry if you took what I said as saying your problems aren't real ( I'm also sorry for not doing a better job on my end). In my head I was thinking in terms of solvable. Like how dare the sky be blue! I've always as a default think I terms of everything has a cause and effect. There is a price for everything. There is also a reason why we are all different some of difference may feel like nooses around ones knock. I was trying to be empathic and realistic. Sorry for not sticking the execution. I could have done better.