[UPDAT] Me [20M] with my girlfriend [20F] of one year. She said something rude about mixed-race couples. I'm mixed-race myself.

This is a niche anecdote I'm sure but sometimes PC pushes boundaries and identities that aren't exactly accurate or inherently true. My biological father was Hispanic and my biological mother is English and German. My father has been out of my life since I was born and by 3 my mom had met the person that I refer to as Dad. He's also Caucasian. I've never met my father or his family and I don't know anything about him beyond his ethnicity because it was something that I marked down in my school registration forms. Suddenly senior year I got an unexpected award as a National Hispanic Scholar based upon PSAT scores and GPA. I started to get bombarded with emails about how important it was for hispanic students to go to university and be active in the hispanic community and the principal and school district admins were all telling me how proud of me they were and everything. I grew up in an affluent jewish suburb of Los Angeles, I don't speak spanish, I don't have spanish customs or anything like that. It's like I suddenly got pigeonholed into being a hispanic-american when I grew up identifying as white. This was even moreso the case because I went to a school in the northeastern United States. Throughout college I had tons of counselors reaching out to me telling me about all the opportunities I have as a hispanic-american student for leadership and clubs and blah blah blah. Not to mention that one time I did go to spanish club or whatever it was called and experienced some of the most racist people I've ever encountered and didn't exactly meet their expectation of being a "real" hispanic. It's something that I worry about because I'm interested in writing and the academic canon. If I ever contribute a novel I don't want to be forced into some category like Hispanic American author.

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