I think OP wants to fix things because she feels responsible or guilty when something goes wrong, (and that is probably because she lacked of some kind of support from her parents as she mentioned it). But she is also strong, can stand up for herself and seem to manage her emotions well so, happy for you OP. I would never have put so much effort in my husband’s professional life but I can see that you backtracked. Being so involved can indeed create issues because the other person probably didn’t ask for it in the first place and is put in a position of being grateful and can lead to resentment too. Even if it’s more understandable in a married couple.