"Let me first say, sorry for offending and stepping into a territory that you consider sacred"

I dont consider this subreddit to be sacred, in fact I rarely post.

"Would you be happy or at least happier in a world where me and other "normal people" didn't step into this territory?"

Yes, or at least dont overrun it. Its OK to participate in the ongoing discussions, its something else entirely to completely overrun all discussions with your own ideas.

"So for you this was a safe haven for you and others to vent about being incel?"

Yeah.

"All these bring me back to my original question. How would you (in a world where you had the strength) fix your problems? "

Just in a general sense:

• Perform better at my job.
• Forgive or at least let go of the things my family has done to me.
• I'm not overweight, but in general I think exercising would help.
• Get out more, do new things and experience new feelings.

Of course, this would be in a perfect world. In reality, I lack motivation to do it, and the forgiveness part is never gonna happen.