What mistake should have killed you?

I did seasonal work for a few years and ended up in a college town in Montana, hopeful to attend the following fall.

I moved there totally solo after summer ranch work and was not in the best headspace. I would go for walks alone at night for hours, not caring to think about how shady it was to be put for a stroll as a lone young lady. One night one of my older male coworkers from the shitty bakeshop I worked at spotted me out and coerced me into an awkward dinner with him...and I honestly do not know how I convinced him to take me home.

The bigger mistake was also caused by loneliness and naivete. Another middle aged co-worker offered to take me for a drive. I was still new to town at this point, but worked at the shop long enough to get to know him. He seemed harmless, and I was an idiot.

I let this 50 something year old dude drive me around the mountains. It was getting darker and he drove into this isolated patch of woods where his older brother had a lean to setup. No one else around. The brother had a gun, let me shoot it in the woods, then weirdly left us alone, walking into the shadows of the trees. Not sure where the gun was put. Then the coworker showed me around the tent, started to massage my back and tried to get me to lay down on the cot. Pushed me down.

I knew all of this was off and was so stupid and uncomfortable. One of those situations where you are trapped in your head and cannot fight out of it.

I fought him off and was able to deny his advances and was absolutely adamant about leaving. Told him it was getting dark. I had work early the next day. Took a lot of talking, but he finally agreed to take home.

Lesson learned...do not let your depressed and lonely self tell you that you don't matter enough to care about yourself. And do not fucking go for a drive alone in the mountains sans cell service with anyone you do not know well. Sounds obvious, right? But the brain can be an idiot.

I found out right before I quit that job that the owner only hired young girls for the counter and prison pre release males to work in the back, most of whom were incarcerated for..guess what....assaulting young women. Fuck that place.

TLDR: Depressed young lady me hung out with older coworkers in the middle of nowhere and could have gotten shot or abused. Take care of yourself.

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