No. This is in no way a "meh". I'm sure his wife, who's been lied to for their entire marriage, feels differently. Not knocking the guy for finally coming out, but he is right when stating that it would have been much better for all if he'd done so before lying to another person to the extent that she believed her relationship was based on honesty and was really for life. Now she has to deal with knowing all those years she spent with a man who really was gay were built on a lie, and that he never loved her (in the sense of a man loving a wife) - what a waste! Being in the closet is all well and good if that's what someone feels he truly is not ready to be out, but not when it ultimately destroys someone else. To be so devoted to that lie that constructing a relationship with another person, knowing the whole time that at some point the truth will have to come out and their world will be shattered, warrants much, much more than a "meh." Getting around "to it" is not all that matters. That poor woman. I'm glad he can now be free and live his life, but his post was spot-on: it should have happened pre-marriage.