Yeah, but if you do it routinely, like you said he should, will that not eliminate any real sense of legitimacy you have for asking them? Would you not just be going through the motions, and not really meaning it?

legitimacy? I'm talking about looking for a connection here. this isn't about fucking cocktail waitresses for 15 years. I was merely describing how it was scary as hell and then it became easy eventually and it will boost your confidence. just make sure you dress nice.

Ummm... maybe she would say no because she has no idea who you are, and she's won't be attracted to you?

she don't care if she don't know you from adam. someone probably multiple people will be attracted to you once you do this enough that you can let your balls hang out when you ask a girl out in the middle of the day in front of her friends.

Eh... that's a bit harder to do than you think.

maybe I know its almost impossible. but you are better than almost all the rest of us assholes on earth, correct? you're better than me in many ways.

anyway just fake it. the moment you wake up shout out loud I love this day! or something like that. then when you take a shower smile or whistle or sing or find something to laugh at. the entire time. make yourself do that. as you are walking out the door knock your shoulders back, dust them. and keep smiling.