Hi Thalia! :)

I feel your pain. I recently asked people to use my new (masculine) name and he/him pronouns. They seem to be getting the name right consistently, but cannot get the pronouns, and it stings every time I hear it. I’m really bad at standing up for myself/correcting people in the moment, so it usually just makes me really uncomfortable and unsocial after a long misgendering conversation. I find myself just shutting down any topic about myself in order to avoid having people refer to me in 3rd person, because I know they won’t do it right.

Sometimes I can tell people are conscious about it, and they still won’t gender me correctly - they slow down in their sentence, pause right at the right moment, but then choose to say my name instead of the pronoun… like, why can’t they just use the right pronoun? Using my name ten times in a row makes it sound awkward. I can tell they’re thinking about it and I know they know which pronouns I use. It just sucks sometimes.

I think it’ll get better with time. Fingers crossed that it gets better for you soon too!