Boy this is karma suicide, but here goes...

Of course I agree with everyone else, that you should tell your bf, he sexually assaulted you.

But I want to point out that, for me, there is no excuse for you not to stop it when it started. I know I'm going to det downvoted so far I'd have to get a second mortgage and I know I'm going to get replies saying "She was raped, she just froze, stop blaiming the victim" but to me it's still a stupid cop out. The way you wrote it, it sounded like he went on for quite some time (waited til it was over), I mean you have your BOYFRIEND right next to you, there is no excuse to me. You all were drunk and you invited a third party in your bed with your boyfriend. It's not like he came into your room when you were sleeping alone and raped you, then I can understand freezing up, but inviting him to sleep in your bed, to me you should have stopped him.

And no I'm not blaming the victim for the act. I hate that logic. I'm basically just saying she reacted stupidly. Like if someone was trying to murder her but really slowly attacking her with a knife, like in slow motion, and yet she just stands there and waits for the knife instead of just stepping to the side. Of course the murderer is the only one at fault here but doesn't mean the victim isn't dumb in her/his own way.

Also I know how forums work, everyone spins the stories to fit them. I'm sure if the guy was here he'd say that you were flirty all night and inviting him to sleep together with you and your boyfriend was kind of an invitation. Which still doesn't give him the right to start fingering you first thing absolute not. But you three were sleeping in the same bed...

All I'm saying is you should definitely had said