I guess first off, Happy Birthday! I'm 31 and it took a while for it to hit me that I'm no longer in my 20's. It's still weird to say that I'm 31.
Not sure if you're looking for advice or not, but I'm somewhat going through the same thing? From 27 to last year, I kind of went from one relationship to another and now, I'm finding myself and re-learning how to be single again. I find myself investing my time, energy, and money in myself more. It kind of helps. Mainly by working out, reading, cooking, and studying. I'm currently working in the finance sector, but kind of want out. So, I've been teaching myself how to code for a while now. Still not that great, but it's coming along well. From what other programmers have said, it seems like everyone struggles with programming. Some just struggle less than others. Maybe since you're a software engineer, you can mentor me! I kid, that would be too much of a time commitment for you.
About me: 31, Korean, kind of tall, kind of fit. I workout a lot, because it's one of the few things that help me keep my peace of mind. I was doing a PPL program, but now I'm doing a PP/PL program. Push/Pull one day, Push/Legs the next day. Rest and repeat. I'm doing this because my push workouts are lagging behind my pull and leg workouts. I've always been stronger from the waist down, so squats and deadlifts have come by more naturally for me.
I'm not a huge gamer anymore, but I used to be. Right now I'm giving Apex Legends a shot. So far it does seem fun, but I can't see myself playing it for an extended period of time. What kind of fantasy novels have/are you reading? I started the Dresden Files and need to get around to picking up the second book. Other than that, I read a lot of self help books, haha. Don't judge me! I find that they help me become more self-aware and help me improve the intangible parts of myself. I just finished The Punisher S2 and Daredevil S3. I'm kind of disappointed that Netflix is axing all the marvel shows, especially since The Punisher S3 was supposed to be Frank Castle fully embracing his role as the Punisher. I'll keep my fingers crossed.
Anyways, I feel like I've blabbered enough. If any of this piques you're interest, shoot me a message and let's see what happens from there.