You're the first person to say something that hits home with me. This is helpful.
Most of this is more recent than high school. The story of the cell phone was when I was in college (he was in high school).
The whole thing made me feel totally betrayed since my efforts to do the right thing basically resulted in me having less than him. He also managed to get things I wanted desperately which made it hurt so much more.
He doesn't still live with my parents. Somehow the opposite with only good luck for him which just made me more angry at every step of the way.
He and his girlfriend ended up getting an apartment together. He liked using the word "cohabitation" and "highly recommended it." Meanwhile I had been with my girlfriend longer, but with both of us making good money each had our own places. He tried to paint it as his relationship was amazing but more like neither of them could afford their own places.
He stole my hobbies one by one and declared himself better at them than anyone else. For instance in high school I was a huge bicycle guy. it was the 90s though so it wasn't popular like today. In the suburbs you got made fun of for not having a car and riding a bike was seen as pathetic. I had no money for a car in high school or college so there was a lot of walking. I got shamed into not wanting to be seen on a bike. After I graduated college and got a job I bought a sensible car I could afford and I was so proud of myself for having a car. Meanwhile everyone else had a car since high school so big whoop. Not like I could brag about my sensible car so I didn't.
So guess who became a fucking cyclist? He became an 'expert' and bought several bikes. Meanwhile I felt like now that I had a car I couldn't even bike anymore.
Craft beer became my thing in the mid 2000s. it was somethign I tried to learn about. I was no expert but I did my best. Well guess who then announces to everyone he brews beer like he's some kind of expert. More like he is in the room while they brew (I figured this out) but his perspective is he's brewing beer.
I try to define myself as someone who cooks well. Well, he's a fucking expert at cooking drowning me out. nevermind that his girlfriend (now wife) does all the cooking and he just stands there and talks about it like he made it. he has no fucking clue what he's doing.
I was getting ready to propose to my girlfriend, and suddenly I hear he's engaged. What the fuck? It throws me off by 6 months so it doesn't seem like I'm doing it in response to him. I had been with her for YEARS longer than he even knew his girlfriend.
Their wedding was huge. I guess her family paid for it. Meanwhilewe had a small wedding because not like we're rich people. Our trip to europe was the honeymoon.
Whenever we had some minor thing to be happy about (got engaged) he had something bigger. He upstaged our honeymoon/me finally getting to see europe by announcing his intent to buy a house.
I had started saving for a down payment since I was 22. I had no idea how the fuck he was buying a house with no savings. I think his wife's family must have paid for the down payment. But he claims he paid for it all himself and he has no debt. He just announces this one time at a family dinner, that he has no debt. How the fuck did he buy a house?
He makes idiot statements like "stoves are cheap if you ever want to buy one, only 400 bucks" and I think what the fuck stoves vary in price from 300 to 5000 dollars or more. You can't make an idiot statement like that.
Then we finally have enough of a down payment to buy a house. But guess what, nobody cares since they're having a baby.
I'm an introvert. I don't really enjoy attention that much but for fuck sake I would have loved a little at some point. How the hell does this guy who is basically a loser just keep having everything fall in place? It takes me years to get things and my income is like double his.