I can see both sides here tbh soni find NTA or YTA a bit difficult.
What i think would've been wise was to just say nothing and unfollow her.
But i understand you where understandable emotional . More than you might have normally been.
I find her reaction a bit harsh
I tried to explain but she said losing a "real baby" is so much worse than what I went through.
I disagree because
She should have tried to place herself in your shoes.
There isn't a limitation on how sad you can feel about a situation. We could go through the same thing. It can be the worst day of my life and for you it's just a bad day.
What does she mean by real baby? When is a baby real?