But at that point he asked it was too late. You can't postpone a wedding a few days before unless you're getting married at the courthouse or in someone's backyard. I had to book my venue a year and a half in advance, and I still couldn't get the day I wanted, even that early. They're not getting their money back, because the caterers have already purchased food, hired staff, made travel arrangements, the flowers are already put together, the decorations are bought, people have bought plane tickets, booked hotels, and asked off for work. There is no postponing a wedding unless you're doing it like 6 months in advance, and even then, you're not getting back deposits. Depending on their finances, they're not having a wedding now. If we'd had to cancel ours a few days in advance, we would have had to wait years to save up money again and it would have probably just been a few people at a park or something.

Now, I'm not saying he is TA, but people saying "just postpone it a few days" are obviously people who have never planned a wedding. The girlfriend has a right to be upset, all that time and money wasted and it's never coming back, I'd be upset too, but she doesn't have a right to be mad he wanted to be at his dying mother figure's bedside and she doesn't have a right to say hurtful things to him.