don't get these comments, in my opinion as a woman who has gotten drunk with work friends and relied on my partner to collect me on many occasions in the past, I have always felt horrible guilt when I've checked my phone thinking it'd been an hour since I last text my boyfriend only to see it was actually 2 or 3 and his last message was asking me if I was alright. I have also felt horrible guilt when I've said I was getting the train home only to miss it and have to ask him to collect me in the car at midnight. Its only happened once or twice but I'm far more careful about it now and thankfully now I've left that job where drinking was more of a culture, I have completely normal nights out that end at a reasonable time and I get home safe without worrying him. I have always felt really bad about those two instances where I was late to respond or missed my train and have reigned it in ever since.

If I am expecting him to pick me up or be my ride home I would always try to keep him in the loop. I might not tell him the address of every bar I'm at but I'll text him once every hour or so to just let him know I'm alive and update him on when I'm planning to come home. Partly so he can know where to get me from the local station or the city, and partly so he knows not to wait up for me before having dinner if I'm staying at a friend's or going to be later.

I've actually been far too engaged in the moment and not considered that me saying I'm going for one or two means we'll still have dinner, so when I've accidentally stayed out for more than an hour or so even if I'm not drunk, I've wasted his evening. I try much harder to plan ahead of time the time I need to leave and not deviate from it just because I'm having fun because doing otherwise is inconsiderate. Just like I think your wife is being inconsiderate and irresponsible by expecting you to collect her but not letting you know where she's going to actually be. At the moment you're being expected to wait until she's too drunk to find her way back safely and then have to potentially traverse round a city or town looking for her, what if her location was off or she left her phone at a bar on her way to meet you, how would you know where to find her?! I find it baffling that she thinks your TA for asking her to be considerate and let you know where she is when she's too drunk to safely get a taxi, bus or train. She's asking you to help collect her and take her home but she doesn't think that requires any info from her end on, oh I don't know... where to actually go?