I haven't gone to classes for language since college, after that it was all on my own. Never been to a gaming meetup. That's a fairly new concept I think. I'm not in my 20's so I would feel hella uncomfortable trying that sort of thing now. I go to the gym to get work done, not to talk. I also go late at night so there are as few people there as possible.

I get your point, that there are socialized aspects of these things. I just have never actively sought any of that out. I always kind of just hoped that I would eventually meet someone who shares my interests through the crap ton of guys I met through the avenues I mentioned. That never really happened.

I do have a gay friend who speaks French, but he doesn't like to do that with me so I don't push it. I've never met a gay guy that shares a similar interest in tv. There was a straight girl who cut my hair once and we talked through like 50 tv shows together speed style while she worked. That was fun as fuck.

Anyway, my point here is that just doing these activities does not introduce you to people. You are right that there are ways to do that, but that requires a lot more work than just having an interest or a hobby.

I responded to this guy who said, "don't look hard, they will come find you". This is wonderful for him, but no, that is not how the real world works. Your post to me here fucking proves that. All the things you mention require mother fucking effort.

Also I'm sick of providing a legitimate point of view on this sub and getting down voted for it. Maybe you disagree, but that's what discussion is for. Why is my opinion so much less valid than anyone else's here?