I'm Asian American (Japanese and Irish) and my husband is Black. We've been together for 22 years. Together we have moved to three States and built three homes together. Our parents met and everyone always got along well. The only issue was my Mom's religious beliefs. Although she loved my husband and called him her "adopted son," she died thinking she would never see me again because, as a gay man, I could not get into heaven. I was an atheist long before my Mom died and all I can say is, fuck religion.
My husband and I met over 22 years ago while working in the Emergency Department. We are both tennis players and started playing tennis after work. My rule is that you never date anyone at work, but I knew I was leaving for a new job in a month when we started dating. We both felt that it was important to date and become friends first before jumping into bed together. After dating for several weeks, going out to many dinners and playing a lot of tennis, I spent the night at his place. I was speechless the first time I saw him naked. He had the most amazing, athletic, defined body and I did not know what to touch first! The wait made our first night together spectacular.
We've now been together in a monogamous relationship for 22 years. My niece and nephew love their Uncle and call him all of the time. To them, I'm just the guy who brings along their favorite Uncle. Both of my brothers love my husband and have always made us feel welcome. My Mother-in-law is the only surviving parent and she moved in with us this year. I believe both of our Dads accepted our relationship and never voiced any concerns or disapproval. My Dad lived with us for the final three years of his life and received state of the art care.
It has been an interesting adventure. We are a gay interracial couple that never thought marriage would be a possibility when we met. I do not wave rainbow flags at work, but I talk openly about having a husband if someone asks, or as everyone else talks about his/her spouse. Perhaps I have been lucky, but I have always felt accepted at work. Have we ever faced discrimination? Yes, but I would say that is due to our race and not the fact we are gay. For example, whenever we travel internationally, we arrive at the airport early because chances are my husband will be pulled out of line - in both the U.S. and the country we are visiting.
We have built a life together and I cannot imagine living with anyone else.