3. Any SX 3’s around here?

Any SX 3’s around here?

I’m about to catch a flight so here are some scattered thoughts and no guarantees they’ll be of any use to you…

Thanks for composing this well written post about SX 3s! I never did a deep dive into the topic but it has made me realize I really relate.

I am a very classic 3. High school valedictorian, voted “most likely to succeed” and “best dressed” by my peers. Got scouted by a modeling agency in NYC, walked shows in NY before attending an ivy league uni… now with a good job at a famous company…. I have always been driven by impressing people and my self worth is only tied to my achievements and looks. Out of all these “successes” I’ve never had a boyfriend. I never felt good enough to pursue a relationship.

I have very recently begun seeing a wonderful man, and I found myself fantasizing about being invited to his office parties, being the tallest, most well dressed, and handsome guy there. I want to stand next to him, but have all eyes on me and make it known that he is dating the most impressive guy in the room. I want him to be recognized and I want to do what I can for him to look like the star.

After reading your post, I have realized maybe I have SX 3 tendencies.

Because I’m just discovering this in me, maybe I don’t have any useful contribution regarding how to be the healthiest version of this type.

Ultimately I think it’s rewiring motivations. For example, when I work out in the gym- instead of being motivated to look hot and muscular, I have found more peace in enjoying a workout for the mental health benefits and meditative quality.

When I dress nicely, the motivation should be to make myself feel good through self expression, and not trying to impress others.

I don’t feel like I need to be the most beautiful person in my lover’s world, at least not in terms of physical looks. This is because I believe that is impossible and not what life is about. I try to be more focused on just being alive and the inherent beauty in being human and making mistakes and being embarrassed and growing and learning and simply… living…

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