"Why are there so many female Mercy mains?" - The real reasons and a woman's perspective for those who care

Hey, this may just get buried, but as a biological male who identifies as agender, a lot of this really resonated with me - from being intimidated by shooters growing up and thus now having no skills, to never going on voice chat because it always feels like a bunch of angry dudes yelling, also not playing comp (I tend to find even QP a little stressful unless I have friends online; when alone I mainly play arcade). I'm also drawn to supports and tanks, although I don't get harassed for picking DPS. I just don't feel like I'm contributing when I play Soldier - also, I tend to get more excited about outpositioning and strategic successes than getting kills. So whenever four people lock supports and tanks, I'm thinking "aww, now I have to go DPS" instead of being happy about it.

I just want to say, to you and all the other women on Overwatch, although the toxic players make their presence, and their opinion of you, disproportionately clear, I think I speak for a lot of players when I say that your presence is valued. If I had a button that could remove a typical skillful yet toxic player from the game and replace them with a well-intentioned, team-focused woman who's still figuring out how to land shots, I'd press that button all day!

My best friend, after watching me play Arkham City for a bit, several years ago, bought the game for herself and had me coach her for a while. It was her first video game, ever. She spent hours flailing the camera around randomly and punching walls instead of the enemy. But, she stuck with it, and it was really amazing how quickly she improved over the next few days. I would tell her "Oh, this fight took me like 10 tries" so she wouldn't get discouraged during hard sections, but she'd clear it on her first try. By the time she finished she was definitely better at the game than me! In an encouraging environment, sure, someone may play DPS who sucks at it and just instadies over and over (like me), but if we let them make mistakes, they'll get better over time, raising the overall skill level of the game's players.

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