Sorry I should have been clearer, I meant more a "was I actually being the asshole or am I truly the victim" check to as opposed to just clear up what happened, because there's nothing worse than spending your nights terrified of talking about something because you can't remember and not coming forward for the justice you deserve.

I appreciate the black and whites of credibility and statements but in reality people talk to each other, but really do try not to talk about the detail of the event. Just make sure your evidence is your recollection without relying on anyone else memory of the event and you don't insert the fill in the blanks details from those who remember more.

But I appreciate this was totally on my absolute piss poor explanation of what I was trying to convey. My apologies